There’s something powerful about telling life what you want.
“I want to improve my presentation skills”
“I want to write emails in German”
“I want to get a new job as a teacher”
In this post, I want to talk about why and also show you how you can create “want-sentences” in your learning.
How do you feel when you have too much to do?
How do you feel when you have a clear goal?
How do you feel when this clear goal is important to you?
Why “want-sentences” are important
A lot of the time when we are learning, it all becomes too much.
All we see is the mountain of work we “have to do” with no idea where to start.
We become confused and unclear, and we do do comes from a place of panic.
When we become clear about what we want, we have a direction. We can decide what things we want to do to achieve our goal. Slowly, everything comes together.
Or as a wise student once said to me: make one decision and all decisions are made.
With this focus, everything changes inside.
Suddenly the mountain falls.
You can forget about the millions of things you “have to do.” You only have one thing to do. You are in control of your learning. You know where you are going.
Doesn’t that feel great?
Here’s another secret: when you feel great, everything works much quicker. Because …
Three:… you are doing what you want to do.
Before, with the mountain, we were doing what we “had” to do.
When there is a “have to” or a “should,” we are not deciding. We are not choosing what we want to do. Like some is standing over us, telling us what to do.
We feel small and powerless. Because of this, our brain doesn’t want to work with us. Which makes learning A LOT harder.
So what if we changed “I have to…” to “I want…”????
Now, the power is in our hands.
We are doing what we want, not what someone else wants.
We are “doing” in our lives, not someone else’s.
Now, we can learn a lot quicker and more efficiently. The learning goes deeper. We can feel more confident about what we know.
So are you ready to write your “want-sentences”?
Great! Here’s a step-by-step guide…
1. Find time alone. 30 minutes, 1 hour, it doesn’t matter. Just start.
2. Think about your learning. Where are you now and where do you want to go? Have a piece of paper nearby do you can make some notes.
3. When you are ready, write three clear sentences about what you want.
If you don’t have any clear ideas, that’s OK. Take a break and do it again another day. Frustration isn’t going to help you here. The fact is: you have started a new process in your brain. There’s no rush – ideas will come.
TIP: Write your sentences as clearly as possible. This will give you a clearer idea about what to do next.
For example, instead of “I want to improve my speaking,” write “I want to improve my speaking in presentations at work.”
Or instead of “I want to improve my writing skills,” write “I want to know which tense to use when I’m writing in my essays.”
4. Compare your learning now with your “want-sentences.” Is it the same? Is it different? If they are different, ask: “How could I change this to the learning I want?”
5. Write it down.
6. Look at your “want-sentences” often. Maybe once a day in the morning. Remember them in the day. Perhaps set a reminder on your phone. Are you following your “wants” or are you doing what you “have to do”?
7. Share your “want-sentences” with someone. This is a little (BIG) thing called “accountability.”
When we tell other people, we a) say it again to ourselves, which brings it more into our lives and b) create support for our “wants” – we find people who will encourage us in our goals and also check with us that we are following it.
Don’t have anyone to share with? Share your “wants” in the comments below. Or send me an email. Let’s build a community and grow together.
The last thing to say is that learning is a life-long process. So don’t be surprised if it’s difficult at first or if your “want-sentences” change over time.
And that’s just great. It’s just a sign that you are growing, becoming clearer, and slowly finding what it is that you really want.
Do you want some help writing those sentences? Email me for a free one hour conversation and let’s do it together.