4 reasons why reading builds confidence

This could be you… ©MoreThanGrammar 2018


I’m going to be honest with you.

Although I’m a dedicated reader, I was never a big supporter of reading books to train English.

It was more important for me to encourage students to speak or write or do a grammar exercise in between classes. I might send an interesting article or bring a short text to class. Yet I never asked my students to create a long-term, consistent reading practice.

What changed for me

Recently, more and more students have been asking me advice about what book they should read outside class. Inspired by their actions, I am putting a lot of thought into what advice I can give to each individual student.

In addition to that, I started to read in German again. I wanted to see what impacts it would have on my own language skills.

What did I learn?

What follows is not advice on how to choose the right book for you. This topic has been written about many times and very well.

Instead I would like to offer you reasons why reading can help you to build confidence in all areas.

1. Reading brings another language to you

A book (especially a nice long one) is something that is always there. You can take it where you want, and you can dive in and out whenever you like.
This is especially useful if you are not living in an English speaking environment.

Because of my job, I don’t always get a chance to have long German conversations every day. So it feels wonderful to spend 10-30 minutes reading, because it feels like I’m continuing a conversation with a friend. It gives me the chance to jump into “another language world” without swopping to my native tongue.

This is helping me to think in German, which also helps my fluency when I’m speaking. Plus, it gives me conversations in context, so if these conversations happen in ‘real life,’ I know what to reply. This gives me an ‘anchor’ to hold on to which helps me to feel more secure while speaking.

Finally, sometimes I see words I wouldn’t normally see and this is important to grow vocabulary, which means I can speak about and understand more and more topics easily.

My current reading pile ©MoreThanGrammar

2.Reading motivates you

Reading can be a great source of motivation for many people.

If you get a really good book, you will want to develop your skills so you can understand exactly what’s happening and so you can get to the end. In fact, I know many people who started reading in English because they were too impatient to wait for the translation.

You also see how well you are learning, as your reading becomes easier and faster with time. When you feel progress, you see the benefits and this gives you the energy to learn longer.

Also, let’s face facts: Reading another language is so cool! I love telling people that I read in German. Not to say “oooo-look-at-me”, more “this-is-a-cool-thing-that-I-do.” When we feel like we’re doing something exciting, of course we’re going to feel better about ourselves.


3. Reading in combination with lessons

I’m also beginning to see the benefits of reading a book in combination with lessons. For example, you can:

  • summarise the story so far to classmates
  • read it aloud to your teacher who can correct your pronunciation
  • underline words and sentences and ask your teacher to explain the grammar
  • discuss the themes of the book

It also builds on what you are already learning. As your skills develop, you might see certain grammatical structures jump out at you. Moreover, you will see the words you’ve learned in a past lesson.

All of this helps strengthen your knowledge, which help you feel great!


Last but not least…

Sometimes it’s OK when you don’t understand ©MoreThanGrammar 2018


4. Reading stops the fear of falling

We all know this feeling: you’re in a conversation with a native speaker or you’re watching a film, and you have no idea what they are talking about.

Sure, you understand one or two words, but the whole sentence? Forget it!

Believe it or not, this is a perfect situation to be in because this is exactly when we learn something new.

You can reduce panic in this situation by practicing the fear while reading.

When you are reading book, you probably won’t understand every single word. At the same time, I believe you will understand more or less what is going on. The more you read and the more you realise that this is a safe situation to be in, the less nervous you will be in conversations where you don’t understand everything.

Once you have faced this fear, conversations will become exciting learning opportunities.

Plus, if you really don’t have anything to say… at least you can start talking about the book you are reading!

To summarise:

  • Books bring real English to you all the time
  • Reading motivates you and is exciting
  • You can use reading to strengthen what you already know
  • You can also use it to practice not knowing

So no more excuses: Dust off that copy of Harry Potter, run to your next bookstore or put an English book on your Christmas wish list…it’s reading time!

How does reading help you? Is there a book you would recommend to other learners? Comment below!

Do you need help choosing a book, or do you want someone to talk about books with? Send me a message and we can arrange a trial lesson.


PS here’s another great post on how reading can build your confidence.


Show up

Ahhhhh phrasal verbs…

If you find phrasal verbs hard, you are not alone. They are hard and sometimes weird. At the same time, they are a key part of conversational English and they are also quite beautiful.

‘To show up’ is one of these.

Like a lot of phrasal verbs, this has a lot of meanings. One meaning of ‘show up’ is to arrive, often unexpectedly.

Here’s an example from the Cambridge Dictionary:

“I invited him for eight o’clock, but he didn’t show up until 9.30.”

There’s also another meaning which I love. ‘To show up’ can simply mean to be there… even when you don’t want to be there.

For example, you have some work to do in English, like a project or a meeting, and there is this voice in your head that says ‘don’t go! You can’t do it! It’s better to stay at home – it will be so embarrassing. You can do it another time.’

‘To show up’ is when you go anyway.

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Be there in bright colours 

Here’s some things I want to say about showing up:

Showing up is a daily practice. It’s something we do today, and the next day, and the next day.

Sometimes it just means going to English class when we’d much rather be at home in our pyjamas.

The winter is coming in Germany. The rain can make us wish we’d rather NOT go to class today. The dark can lower our energy. We don’t even have time to attend company courses because of our high work load. I can completely understand that, and I completely support the need to rest, make space and self-care, but sometimes…

Showing up IS self-care. It shows yourself that you…

  • respect yourself so much that you want to get better at something.
  • trust that you are strong enough to do it.
  • care about your goals and becoming a better person.
  • make space for other parts of life.

Showing up is a habit we build. The first few times we do something it’s always hard. Currently I’m learning how to code. I promised myself that I would learn for at least 15 minutes every time I have a free evening. For the first week, I really had to motivate to sit down and start.

Now I’m in my second week and I don’t really think about it: I just sit down and I start. I show up because now it’s normal for me to do it. And if I can do it, so can you.

Showing up is hard. Because it means we will continue working when every part of us wants to give up.

It means we make mistakes and maybe embarrass ourselves. Sometimes you just have to forget your ego and continue working. You make a mistake, you learn from it, you start the next exercise or join the next conversation.

Yes, this is hard. I know this as a teacher and as a student, but you show up anyway. That’s why…

Showing up gets easier with time. You build that strength inside which helps you continue. You build a trust that you can do it. Finally, you learn to ignore the voices in your head which tell you to postpone your goals.


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Showing up is a daily practice ©MoreThanGrammar 2018

Last but not least…

Showing up is necessary to leaning something new. This includes English. Here’s a hard truth: you don’t get better at something if you don’t practice it. To practice something, you have to show up. Show up to class, show up to Meet Ups, or even show up to your desk and write some short sentences.

The fact is: you do something, you get better at it. It’s always this way.

So next time you’re thinking about NOT going to English class, think about showing up instead. Think about all those reasons that help you to move forward, think about how life will be 6 months from now if you keep showing up.

Think about that. And show up.

The end.


Are you finding it hard to show up? Do you need someone to motivate you? Then give me a call and organise a trail lesson with me.

“I can’t do it” is only a concept

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In August, I went on a yoga retreat. I learned many things there and in this post, I’d like to share with you the top top TOP lesson that I took back with me.

Whenever we (the participants) came up with a reason why we couldn’t do something, our teacher would say one simple line: Das ist nur ein Konzept or That is only a concept in English.

For example:

“I can’t do handstands because I’m a woman” – That is only a concept

“Meditation is really hard” – That is only a concept

“That’s just how I am” – That is only a concept

Why these words are so powerful

Since the retreat, I’ve had a lot of fun bringing these five words into my everyday life.

“I’m too tired” – That is only a concept

“I don’t have time today” – That is only a concept

“I have so much to do!” – That is only a concept

Sometimes it even makes me laugh because it helps me to take my thoughts less seriously.

That is one part of the power of these words. Humour is very important when learning something new.

Another great thing is that they bring us out of our normal ways of thinking.

For example, let’s look at my personal favourite: “I have so much to do!”

When I add “That is only a concept” to this sentence, I start to think: “Hmmm good point. Do I really have too much to do? Or have I given myself too much to do? Is there a way I can do less things today? Is there someone or something that can wait for tomorrow or next week? OR maybe I can do all of these things. Maybe I’ll get them done really quickly… I don’t know, let’s see…”

After that, I feel a lot more relaxed about the whole situation.

So, in short, these words are powerful because 1) they help us question our situation and be less serious, 2) they help us think differently and 3) they help us to relax.

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Yes… this is often how I teach… ©MoreThanGrammar 2018

Concepts in English learning

Now I’m starting to think about how I could use it as a teacher.

In fact, I’ve noticed myself thinking it in conversations with students.

I hear a lot of concepts on a daily basis. In other words, I hear a lot of reasons why students can’t learn English.

Let’s take a common concept as an example: “I can’t do it”

This is by far the top favourite concept that I have heard during my many years of teaching.

I want to say right now that when I use the word ‘concept,’ I don’t want to say that what you think isn’t important. Of course, it’s important.

What I mean when I use the word ‘concept’ is that this is only an idea that you have. It’s a thought. As I learned in therapy “thoughts are thoughts, not facts.”

This means you don’t have to believe everything you think, which is a very freeing thing. It means you can think again. It means you have a chance to think differently about yourself. It means you have a chance to find a new, and positive, way of thinking.

“But Victoria, this is not a thought, it’s a FACT, I can’t do it”

OK, fine… I still don’t believe you. So let’s look at…

…The way out

For this exercise, I want you to think about something you want to do, but “can’t.” It could be writing an email or giving a presentation or speak fluently.

Put this activity in front of you. Maybe you could make a picture of it in your head. For example, a picture of a PowerPoint slide.

Now say “I can’t do this.” Do it with feeling, maybe even shout it, and jump up and down. “I CAN’T DOOOO THIIIISSS.”

And after that say quietly: “But that is only a concept I have.”

You might need to do this exercise a few times. At first, the conversation will probably continue. “No it’s not, I can’t do this.” Just keep answering: “That is only a concept.”

Then slowly slowly, you might get different thoughts in your head.

“Well no, I can’t do this right now, but I can learn. I can definitely use PowerPoint. And I can definitely type. Maybe I could write a version in German first and then start to translate it. Or I can…”

Do you see what I mean? You start to talk yourself into a different way of thinking. You start to see what you can do instead of what you can’t. When you see what you can do, how you feel about the task changes completely.

Very cool.

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You are my hero because you can do this! ©MoreThanGrammar 2018

In summary

  • Whatever you believe is only a concept
  • Concepts can change
  • You have the power to change them
  • How cool is that?

Now go out and there and change your world!

Sometimes we need help to change our concepts. I often feel that it is my job as a teacher: to help my students think differently about what they can do in English. So if you need help to find and change your concepts, give me a call and we can arrange a trial lesson.

Balance: the inner critic and your inner cheerleader

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I just want to say: where ever you are, whatever you are doing for your language learning, however you are talking to yourself, you are doing really well.

We all have this voice to tell ourselves that what we do is not enough, that we need to do more, that we need to be better.

I talked about this voice in my last video. I said that: When we say our English isn’t good enough, we become demotivated, we enjoy less and we learn less.

However, I also want to say…. It’s OK to have this voice.

I used to push this voice away and ignore it. In my experience, the voice then only got louder and I had to fight harder to keep it out of my head. Now I have a relationship with this voice. I listen to it…. I am always curious about what it needs.

What is this voice saying? Do I feel unsafe? Am I comparing myself to other people? Is it true: do I need to do more? What does this voice want?

It is safe to ask these questions. Normally I find the voice wants something very simple and kind.

If we don’t listen to this voice, we end up following it anyway. It follows us and comes into our day. Learning becomes more about following the voice rather than learning to enjoy, learning to improve ourselves, or simply learning to learn.

And we can build another voice. A kinder friend who will always encourage us, and point to the positive things we are doing.

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I have built this voice in me through different ways:

  1. I write down all of the things I can already do
  2. I write down all of the things I have done that day (or I list them before I sleep)
  3. I leave little messages around the house or in my bag that say nice things about me
  4. I write encouraging notes for me (for example “You’re doing really well” or “You can do it”)
  5. I talk to myself in kind ways when I am walking to work

This is not about creating a war between two voices. This is very important. Wars in your head are very tiring.

No, instead it is about balance. The voice who criticises you lives with the voice who encourages you. It is safe to have both. There is enough space for both. In fact, we have a right to have both in us. Because both make us human. And to learn a language well, you need this balance.

And that’s why: where ever you are, whatever you are doing for your language learning, however you are talking to yourself, you are doing really well.


Do you need help finding balance? Then send me an email or give me a call, and let’s arrange a free trial lesson today!

Find your comfort zone: how to find something to talk about

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When we speak to people who we don’t know, it can be difficult to know what to talk about.

Where do I begin? What do they like? What is right in this culture? These are the questions we often ask ourselves when we are in a new social situation.

I find the more I ask myself questions, the more confused I get. When I am confused, I don’t say anything at all.

So I’d like to give you an easy exercise so you can find something to talk about and build your language around that.

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What do you want to talk about?

This is an exercise I often do with new students in our first lesson together.

It is very simple: draw a table – on the left write ‘good topics’ on the right ‘bad topics.’ Then write any ideas you have which can go in these two groups

What is ‘good’ and what is ‘bad’?

Good question. ‘Good’ topics are things you can talk about with anyone. For example, the weather (very typical in England), where you live, places you travelled to, friends etc.

‘Bad’ topics are things that are too personal or controversial. For example, money, politics, sport (sometimes!), religion etc.

(Maybe there are some topics which are in the middle – for example family – it is OK to talk about your family but maybe you don’t want to talk about the argument you had with your bother last night!)

TOP TIP: If you are going to do business with another country, it is a good idea to research what are ‘good’ and ‘bad’ topics in their culture. You want to make friends in your first conversation, not enemies! It is important to be respectful.

Now you have your topics, choose one you really like.

For example, maybe you can take ‘where you live.’

Now, you need to become an expert in this topic. You can do two things for this.

First you can write all the words you know and then find more (by translation or online). You can write a list or draw a mind map. Whatever works for you.

Secondly, you can write all the questions you can ask about this topic. You could get your teacher to correct them for you and then you can practice them until you know them completely.

where I live mindmap and questions

With these two steps, now you have at least one thing you can talk about with new people who you meet. When you become comfortable with this topic, you can choose a second topic and start the process again.

I find this is a really easy way to build your conversation skills because it gives you easy things to talk about and a structure you can use to learn them.

If you’re interested about learning other structures I use or if you want a teacher to support you in this, send me an email and we can arrange a trial lesson.

What topics will you choose? Share in the comments below.

How to Talk to Anyone


how to speak to anyone people having a conversation 2How do we talk to anyone?

Sure it’s very easy to talk to people we know in a language we know.

But what about we don’t know the language? What about when we don’t know the people? What do we talk about? How do we know we are saying the right thing? What if we forget the words? What if we make mistakes?

I want you to lose the idea that you have to be perfect.

No conversation is perfect. I know native speakers who also don’t know the words to say. So you can forget about this right now.

English is a simple language and I KNOW that you have enough knowledge to say what you think. OK it might feel strange, you might make mistakes and you might have to explain more what you mean. And that’s OK.

My aim as a teacher is not to make you perfect.

Instead what I choose to focus on is you feeling comfortable when you are speaking in strange situations. Because when you are comfortable, you are happy to be yourself. When you are happy to be yourself, other people are happy around you.

Then it’s possible to talk to anyone.

And I am becoming more and more passionate about telling people that it’s possible to talk to anyone, right now, with the language you have now.

You don’t need to be C1 to make sense. You can be A1 and a powerful speaker. You have ideas and English is another chance to share them in a different language.

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For this reason…

Next week, I am starting a course here in Berlin called ‘How to Talk to Anyone.’

It is for people who know the grammar, but who don’t know how to use it on a day to day basis. People who know how to read but not how to speak about what they read. People who have a lot to say, but don’t know how to say it. And for people who simply want to feel more comfortable speaking English.

My aim in this course is to give you some structures that you can follow and ideas you can talk about when the words escape you. I want to give you a safe space to practice your words and your opinion so that it becomes easier in the ‘real world.’

And finally I want you to relax and have fun – because when we have fun, everything becomes so much easier.

I want you to know that you can have fun with this. Talking to anyone is wonderful and exciting. You make new friends and build new connections, at work and in your free time.

Yes, it’s possible.

So if you are interested in learning more about conversation and want to feel more comfortable when you are speaking, send me an email and I’ll reserve a place for you.

The time to feel confident is now. This is your chance. Take it.


Read more about ‘How to Talk to Anyone’ here.


The power of community

take time for your friends mondayThere is power in community.

Of course it is wonderful when we can depend on ourselves. When we are strong enough to face our challenges alone.

There can also be times when we need support.

Our communities lift us up when we fall. They give us someone to talk to when we are stuck in our thoughts. They motivate us when we are close to the finish line.

As well as this support, I find my communities help me to grow. They give me a chance to experiment and share my opinion in a safe space. They remind me of my dreams and inspire me to make them happen. They give me advice and connections so that my network continues to grow.


How do you find a community?

I have built my communities through three main ways:

1. Social media has given us a fantastic opportunity to build our support groups. Personally, I have found Facebook groups amazing. Typing out my problems and seeing the support I get almost instantly helps me to feel safe and encouraged when I really needed it.

2. If you need people to connect to, meetup can be a fantastic way to find people who have the same interests as you.

3. When you have found these groups, get involved. Go out, connect, help others, drink a tea together, go to the park, whatever!

Don’t worry if you don’t get best friends immediately. Sometimes it takes 3, 4, 5 or more meetings to build a strong relationship. A true community comes from openness, exploration and commitment. Keep going, you will find your people!

I am very grateful for my community and I know I would not be here without them.

And we all deserve that.

So to close I’d like to ask you 5 questions:

  1. Who can you already reach out to?
  2. How can you build that relationship?
  3. How can they help you?
  4. How can you help them?
  5. What can you do to grow your community today?

Take time to ask yourself this question today and find the community that’s best for you.

Are you Berlin? Are you looking for community? Join my meetup group Confidence and Conversation and feel welcome at our next workshop.

Thank you to my precious communities: Berlin Girl, Brighton Girl, Playing Big for Visionary Women and Berlin Spoken Word.

Find your WHY

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If you want to do something, first think about why you want to do it.

Very often when we want to do something, we focus on “how” we are going to do it. We ask ourselves “what do I need to do? How am I going to do it? When is it going to get easier/better/faster?”

This is of course very important… but it is only 20% of the work.

The other 80% comes from why we want to do it.

“Why” gives us our motivation. It is our reason to try again, even when we fail. When we know why we want to do something, how we are going to do it comes very naturally and easily.

It is also very important that our “why” comes from a positive place.

For example, compare:
“I need to learn English because if I don’t I will lose my job”
“I want to learn English because it will give me new opportunities at the workplace”

Which of these comes from a positive place?

Yes you’re right. The second.

So I’d like to ask you to take some time today to think about why you are learning English (or Spanish or German or whatever). Why is it important to you? Are you doing it because you want to? Or because you have to?

Think about this and find your “why.” Find your “why” and feel more confident in your studies. Find your “why” and see how your learning becomes clearer, more focussed and more fun.


What do you want anyway?


There’s something powerful about telling life what you want.

“I want to improve my presentation skills”

“I want to write emails in German”

“I want to get a new job as a teacher”

In this post, I want to talk about why and also show you how you can create “want-sentences” in your learning.

How do you feel when you have too much to do?
How do you feel when you have a clear goal?
How do you feel when this clear goal is important to you?


Why “want-sentences” are important

One: Focus

A lot of the time when we are learning, it all becomes too much.

All we see is the mountain of work we “have to do” with no idea where to start.

We become confused and unclear, and we do do comes from a place of panic.

When we become clear about what we want, we have a direction. We can decide what things we want to do to achieve our goal. Slowly, everything comes together.

Or as a wise student once said to me: make one decision and all decisions are made.

Two: power

With this focus, everything changes inside.

Suddenly the mountain falls.

You can forget about the millions of things you “have to do.” You only have one thing to do. You are in control of your learning. You know where you are going.

Doesn’t that feel great?

Here’s another secret: when you feel great, everything works much quicker. Because …


Three:… you are doing what you want to do.

Before, with the mountain, we were doing what we “had” to do.

When there is a “have to” or a “should,” we are not deciding. We are not choosing what we want to do. Like some is standing over us, telling us what to do.

We feel small and powerless. Because of this, our brain doesn’t want to work with us. Which makes learning A LOT harder.

So what if we changed “I have to…” to “I want…”????

Now, the power is in our hands.

We are doing what we want, not what someone else wants.

We are “doing” in our lives, not someone else’s.

Now, we can learn a lot quicker and more efficiently. The learning goes deeper. We can feel more confident about what we know.

So are you ready to write your “want-sentences”?

Great! Here’s a step-by-step guide…


Step-by-step guide..

1. Find time alone. 30 minutes, 1 hour, it doesn’t matter. Just start.

2. Think about your learning. Where are you now and where do you want to go? Have a piece of paper nearby do you can make some notes.

3. When you are ready, write three clear sentences about what you want.

If you don’t have any clear ideas, that’s OK. Take a break and do it again another day. Frustration isn’t going to help you here. The fact is: you have started a new process in your brain. There’s no rush – ideas will come.

TIP: Write your sentences as clearly as possible. This will give you a clearer idea about what to do next.

For example, instead of “I want to improve my speaking,” write “I want to improve my speaking in presentations at work.”

Or instead of “I want to improve my writing skills,” write “I want to know which tense to use when I’m writing in my essays.”

4. Compare your learning now with your “want-sentences.” Is it the same? Is it different? If they are different, ask: “How could I change this to the learning I want?”

5. Write it down.

6. Look at your “want-sentences” often. Maybe once a day in the morning. Remember them in the day. Perhaps set a reminder on your phone. Are you following your “wants” or are you doing what you “have to do”?

7. Share your “want-sentences” with someone. This is a little (BIG) thing called “accountability.”

When we tell other people, we a) say it again to ourselves, which brings it more into our lives and b) create support for our “wants” – we find people who will encourage us in our goals and also check with us that we are following it.

Don’t have anyone to share with? Share your “wants” in the comments below. Or send me an email. Let’s build a community and grow together.

That’s it.

The last thing to say is that learning is a life-long process. So don’t be surprised if it’s difficult at first or if your “want-sentences” change over time.

And that’s just great. It’s just a sign that you are growing, becoming clearer, and slowly finding what it is that you really want.

Do you want some help writing those sentences? Email me for a free one hour conversation and let’s do it together.

Why I’m sick of your stories.


“I can’t do it”

“This is impossible”

“I’ll do that when I have more time”

“I’m too old/young/stupid”

Sound familiar?



These are stories. And they stop us doing what we want.

They are also not true.

You are MORE than them.

And every time you tell them you are only making yourself smaller.

You only believe them because you tell yourself these things again and again (and again).

Now is the time to stop.


Let us take “This is impossible” as an example.

Let’s say you are saying this when you are learning or doing something new.

“URGH I give up, this is impossible!” – what are you really saying when you say this? It’s difficult, it’s complicated, it’s confusing???

None of these things are impossible. Yes they are scary, but not impossible.

What happens when we say things are ‘impossible’?

Yep, that’s right, we give up!

We don’t even try! Five minutes and our patience is finished.

What if we tried for five minutes longer? What if I told you that you have more energy and power in you than you think?

Yes maybe it’s uncomfortable…. but not impossible. In fact, it’s very very possible.


So what if we told ourselves a different story?

“I can learn”

“This is difficult…. and I can do it”

“Let me make time now”

“I am perfect for this task”

What if we told ourselves that again and again (and again)

I’ll tell you what happens… We begin to believe that. We begin to grow. We become more.


Let me give you a personal example:

This morning I was lying in bed telling myself “I can’t write my CV, it’s impossible, I hate it, I can’t do it” etc etc.

I caught myself.

“OK OK OK… let me try something new. I am very good at writing CVs, I am very good at writing CVs, I am very good at writing CVs, I am very good at writing CVs…”

For about 20 minutes.

I got up… and I’m not even joking… I had so many ideas. I found it difficult to write quickly enough!!

I was shocked. I didn’t know this exercise could be SO powerful.

(OK yes, I know, this isn’t to do with learning a language… but it’s the same principle.)

So how can you use it?

1. Listen to yourself through your day. Listen to yourself when you sit down to learn something. What thoughts are there? What are you saying to yourself?

2. When you find one, write it down.

3. Question this idea. Be a police officer. Is it true? Do I want this idea in my head?
Look at this idea. Clearly. Then say ‘I am willing to think differently.’

And that’s it. When you say that you want to see it differently, your brain will jump a little. When it jumps, it is already beginning to think differently.

You are beginning to change in that moment.

4. Look at the idea again. Is there another way you can say this? Can you find another way to think about you and your learning?

Maybe it will come immediately. Maybe it will come later. It doesn’t matter. It will come.


I’m not saying ideas like ‘impossible’ and ‘can’t’ are BAD. I’m saying that you are more than them. When you think them, you are putting yourself in a box. You are small… You are not going to grow there.

The question is then: do you want to grow?

You decide.

Just stop telling me your story. Because I know you are more than that.


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